The Game Plan: The First Step Toward Getting Your Girl

The majority of my friends are guys, and the majority of them have zero other girl friends, so I find myself dealing out advice on wheeling girls on a nightly basis (whether asked for or not). My advice has not failed yet, so I figured, why should they be the only ones profiting from my awesome tricks?

Let’s start with the first step. You finally found a girl you like, and surprisingly, she has given you her number. Do you call her the next day? Do you invite her to dinner? Lunch? Meet at a bar? With the advent of books like He’s Just Not That Into You, girls are growing increasingly suspicious of male attention. If you ask a girl to meet you for a drink, she might think you are just another asshole looking for sex, not just a guy looking for a low-pressure date to get to know one another.

So what do you do, dear? Make her sweat a little. She knows you have her number, so you know she’s wondering every time her phone rings, if it’s you calling her up. But don’t wait too long, or she could A. Meet someone else or B. Write you off as a game player (which FYI, if you are reading this, you are). Do not call over the weekend. If you ask her out for a Friday or a Saturday, you just set yourself up for a very high-pressure experience. I would say ask her out for dinner Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday. That way, you have the perfect excuse if the date goes sour (“I have work in the morning”), and it is innately casual because it isn’t a “date night”.

Let’s take for example my friends, let’s call them Sam and Julie.

When my friend Sam asked me for my friend Julie’s phone number, I already knew that she would be interested, so I could have just given it to him. Instead, I asked her if she would mind my giving Sam her number. This gave Sam the opportunity to play hard to get. She knew that he had her number, so she was wondering why he hadn’t called. They met at my apartment on Tuesday, so I waited 2 days to tell Julie he wanted her number, and then he waited until the following Monday to call.

They went out to dinner on Wednesday, and she had already texted him again by Saturday to hang out. Julie had just gotten out of a serious relationship and was pretty devastated. It didn’t matter. She liked him so much she introduced him to her mother the following week when her mother visited.

I got game.